I'm a nasty woman

Read my thoughts pre-march here. // p.s. cover photo credit goes to donnie riggs. // okay, we marched. you get it. here's how we start making a difference

"This is a day that will change us forever, because we are together" - Gloria Steinem  

Yesterday was amazing. Truly amazing. And it's hard to put everything into words. When you're there, on the ground, in the crowd, it's hard to understand the magnitude of what is actually going on. You're marching, walking, talking with others. You feel that you're a part of something huge, but it doesn't really set in. 

But last night, as I was filling up with hot soup and wine, I watched arial videos of the crowds in Washington, D.C. and it started to sink in. This was something really big. Millions took to the streets all over the globe to peacefully protest what was going on: The president of the United States of America is against equality and the right to choose and women's rights and immigrants and many other things. 

The president of the United States is not our president. And the world agrees. 

At some point, we tried to get up to the stage, unaware how packed the area already was. We made it up to the sculpture garden and the air and space museum. We stood and chatted and took pictures and tried to find a way to get up closer to no prevail. Sitting on Maxim's shoulders, we could just barely see the jumbotron. But I listened to the words of Gloria Steinem and Scarlett Johansson and America Ferrara.


Like, I don't know what to say except that I feel so happy to have been a part of this. For every woman out there who has ever felt threatened for having a voice or speaking up, know that we're here for you. For any woman that's been made to feel uncomfortable because of the color of your skin, or the way that you look, know that we're here for you. For anyone that feels threatened and scared about what these next four years have in store, know that we are here for you. We are a nation of diversity and immigrants and freedom and choice. 

As Americans, we have the freedom to choose if we want an abortion, and the freedom to marry whomever we want. We have the freedom to chase after our dreams and create businesses around them. We have the freedom to speak freely as a female or muslim or whatever you may be. And that's because we live in the United States of America. 

And whenever you feel like Trump is threatening that — like honestly, though, it won't end — remember that the march took place ACROSS THE GLOBE. It took place in Antarctica and Europe. It took place in Texas and Alaska and the biggest cities on the globe. It even took place at Disney World

P.S. If you missed it: 

Click here to watch Madonna's powerful speech. Or click here to watch all of them. 

“I respect that you are our president-elect...And I want to be able to support you. But first, I ask, that you support me. Support my sister. Support my mother. Support my best friend and all of our girlfriends. Support the men and women here today that are anxiously awaiting to see how your next moves may drastically affect their lives.” - Scarlett Johansson 

The story behind the sign 


So, I did not come to the march with a sign. I arrived with my phone and Maxim and a cup of coffee from Dunkin Donuts. I thought I could make a sign at the rally and then realized that there were already 250K people rallying...oops. 

Maxim and I were on 7th street (where everyone was filling the street preparing to march), and we were looking for some water before the marching officially began. As we made our way up the street, a woman handed me a sign. She said that it was made with love and that she wanted me to have it. One side said "SAD" in giant glitter letters. The other, more popular side, said "3 Doors Down LOL." 

3 Doors Down was one of the "big" performers at the inauguration. Being a performance at the inauguration has not always been a huge political statement...until now. Read more here

And there you have it, kids. 


Know that it doesn't end here and that we can make a change.

Click herehereherehere and here for easy ways to start getting involved. 

Why I'm marching

Read my post-march thoughts here. 

Today, we march. I woke up early this morning and laid in bed thinking about why I really wanted to march and what it meant to me. I realized that there are many women and men out there whom also are in the same situation. Yes, we believe in equality. Yes, we’re against Donald Trump. But what did it actually all mean? 

So below is merely a train of thought, a smorgasbord if you will, of my contradictions, thoughts, concerns, etc. about the women’s march. It's unedited, unrevised and simply here because I felt the need to say something. Read it if you’d like. Or just know that it’s here if you ever get a hankering. 

I grew up in a household with a mother who could not vote and was mostly withheld from any sort of political battles. My father was (and is) a deeply rooted republican. His father was majorly involved in Vietnam and he works in the DoD. He was George W. Bush’s biggest fan, and supports the republican party at the moment — he likes Pence more than Bush, and believes in the keeping a strong military. But no, I’m not defending my dad. I’m UNDERSTANDING my dad. It’s something that I’ve never been good at. During the election I was angry that he didn’t side with me and yelled at him because I didn’t think he was ALLOWED to have a difference of opinion from me. But I’ve taken a deep breath and I understand. I understand that the military and the defense of the united states employs A L O T of people that are constantly in risk of losing their job every time that the defense budget is cut. I get that. I understand, too, that many people that hold traditional blue collar jobs see Donald Trump as a shining beacon of hope. And I understand that the world we live in is changing at a pace that is hard for many people to wrap their heads around. I get it. Honestly, though, I do. 

But this is what I don’t understand.

I don’t understand why a man who openly talks about sexually harassing and abusing women is allowed to be elected. I don’t understand why it is legal for the White House website to remove pages on climate change and LGBTQ+ rights. I don’t understand why a man — a man whom is praised by the Ku Klux Klan and whom is an advocate of what is generally comparable to the beginning of the Holocaust — is allowed to be president. It confuses me that a man whom has made statements that generally VIOLATE human rights and international law is allowed to be our leader. 

He is not my leader. 

And I will go out on a branch here — I would not feel this way if another Republican was president. It’s not an anti-republican thing. It’s an ANTI-TRUMP thing. And that’s a big distinction that I think I want to get across with the march today. I am not against democracy. I’m not against the peaceful transition of power and I’m definitely not against republicans. 

I’m against Donald Trump and everything that he’s been advocating for. 

Donald Trump makes me scared to be a female in the United States. And while I proudly have Mexican background, I look and sound like a white female. I’m well off. I have a job and a blog and a fiance and both of my parents are alive. I’m in a good position to be a citizen for the next four years, all things considered. 

But Donald Trump has made my friends terrified. He’s sent waves of women to have IUDs inserted, he’s sent waves of people to consider leaving this country {and this time they’re actually acting on it}. 

Donald Trump’s rhetoric is not one of a man that believes in unifying this country. It’s of a man who is power hungry and narcissistic and lacking the C O U R A G E to do what is right. 

So this is why I’m marching today. 

I’m marching because I’ve experienced firsthand men that treat women in the same way that Donald Trump treats women and talk to me in derogatory ways. I’ve dealt with people who believe that a woman can not be in a position of power. I’ve been called a bitch for being aggressive and having an opinion. I've been told that sexual harassment is just a part of the "real world" and that I need to shut up and keep my head down. I've been told that if I want to get anywhere, I need to appease the men in power. I’m marching because I believe that women’s rights are human rights. I’m marching because I stand with my friends who are terrified of practicing their religion in a country. A country that WAS FOUNDED AS A RELIGIOUS SAFE HAVEN. I’m marching because I stand with people of disabilities. I know what it’s like to have someone mock you over and over for the way that you look or talk. I’m marching because, like the peace marches against the Vietnam War, I am peacefully showing that I am against the current political atmosphere. 

And finally, I’m marching because DC is my city. I grew in the suburbs in Fairfax County. My parents work in Washington, D.C. and I’ve always been close to the heartbeat of the political world. DC is not just politics — DC is a sprawling city filled with incredible diversity and arts and culture and amazing food and opportunities that are boundless. DC is one of the most educated cities to live in and I’m proud to constantly be around SMART, INTELLIGENT and BEAUTIFUL human beings. 

So I’m marching today. I won’t be participating in acts of violence or abuse or shouting profanities. I’m simply marching because we are stronger together and because I believe in a world where rights are equal. And I will never stop supporting that.

That's #WhyIMarch

Read my post-march thoughts here.